This might sound naive or idealistic, but I’ve found looking for the good in people makes it easier to work with them. Most everyone has good qualities amidst their quirks, and by focusing on those qualities, the quirks tend to annoy one less. It makes for healthier, more productive working relationships. And also helps in personal ones. Focusing on the negative is petty and gets in the way of doing great things. And makes you less happy too.
So the next time you find yourself struggling to work with someone, look for their good qualitiesand you’ll likely find them easier to work with (sure, there’s always the individual for which this won’t work). I’ve never forgotten a quote on creativity by Deanne Delbridge – a consultant I met many years ago: “Focusing on what’s working will speed the process.” It works for creativity and it works for building stronger relationships.
